‘I Was Abused’ – Anita Oyakhilome Opens Up After Divorce Saga

If you recall in 2014, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome and his wife Anita, who
now goes by her maiden name Ebhodaghe caused quite a stare when news
of divorce between the two hit the net.

The divorce was filed in April 9, 2014 at Divorce Section A, Central
Family Court, First Avenue House, High Holborn, London, United Kingdom
on the grounds of "unreasonable behaviour" and for the first time
since that divorce, Anita is now speaking.



Anita took to her blog to discuss how her life has been changing as of
late making some serious references to her marriage as she wrote. She
wrote:

It is my desire to reach out and inspire you especially if you feel
vulnerable and in need of a change. I hope to inspire you to believe
in yourself no matter the circumstances. I want to help you recreate
your life going forward, so you can live beautifully. I have been
through this journey of rediscovery and nothing is as beautiful as
realising one's uniqueness as I have done. Life is a precious however,
your life can go through different seasons: winter, spring, summer or
autumn. Life can hit you with financial loss, disappointments, death
of a loved one, a broken relationship, loss of a job, a divorce, being
falsely accused or being a victim of crime. These can shatter you to
pieces but you can do something about it.



Life is a gift from God and you deserve to be happy irrespective of
your age, race, gender, background or financial situation. I urge you
to appreciate the gift you are, you are precious and valuable. Never
lose sight of who you are; begin to create new visions and dreams for
your life. Let nothing stop you from growing every day. My story is
not one of a bed of roses, far from it but I had a choice to either
beat myself over the regret of tolerating abuse for so long or put a
stop to the abuse and recreate my life for the best. My journey was
not in vain. I can now help others realise that their situation does
not define them.

In order to move on with life, I have come to realise that nothing is
permanent. Your problem is not permanent; you can do something to
change it by ensuring you do not allow the situation or the person
make your life miserable. Pain is a fact of life, it is inevitable but
suffering is optional. You can do something to change the pain by over
looking every obstacle, take control as a force of nature to grow and
expand. Do what is necessary now to use the gift God has given you to
unleash your purpose.

My message to all is simple: you have value therefore discover your
potential. Do not allow anybody destroy you or rob you of living a
joyful life. Your life is not wasted; you have just started a
different phase of life. God will show you how to use your testimony
to help others and restore their lives to exuberance. Please join me
to encourage and inspire others. You have a story to tell, you can
contribute and participate in the dialogues here. Let us all learn
from one another's experience and reach others with the gift of love
and kindness. Share your experience by emailing me or making a
comment. Celebrate your uniqueness because there is only one of you.



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