Still single? Here's why...

Many reasons may be responsible for not being married but examine
yourself and pinpoint why your status has not changed

* You play hard to get

Playing hard to get makes it hard to find Mr. /Ms. Right. You need not
pretend to be busy when asked out on a date; neither should you feign
nonchalance when you really desire that person asking you out. There
is a chance that when you change gear, it can be someone who will make
you unhappy.

If you have a serious problem with your partner, it is important to
bring it up, but try to avoid petty arguments and insults. One nitpick
fight is not a big deal, but over time, small backbiting comments can
erode the foundation of your relationship.

Serious people who want to be engaged in serious relationships do not
play around; they get down to the real deal. No one wants to date
someone who is known for hopping into every available bed.

* You still harbour stereotypes

Not all men fear commitment and not every woman is needy. That is not
necessarily true. A large percentage of singles is anxious and seeks
closeness but worries about love not being reciprocated. Others are
avoidant and shun intimacy. People who push others away or have a
preconceived idea about intimacy are likely to end up single.

* You still on hold on to the past

Holding on to an ex or a failed relationship makes it hard to find a
new one. For these reasons, you become avoidant and uncomfortable in
any relationship -- you push others away and compare every new person
you meet with your ex. Why not let go?

* You are too rigid

Already, you have a picture of who your ideal mate should be. Be
flexible in your choice, and realistic; you can never get a perfect
partner. No one is. Or do you want a relationship like that of the
movies? Then, it might take a very long time. Getting stuck on finding
all the qualities in your 'what-I-want' list is a faster way of
remaining single.

* You are scared and insecure

Some people avoid committed relationships because they worry they will
become dependent on their mate, or break up rather too soon. It may be
one fear or another. The trick is to boldly find someone and work at
it.

* You work nights or weekends

Some people who are looking for husbands or wives would not think of
you as good material, if you work late nights and on weekends. More
importantly, not having the same schedule could be a huge strain on a
relationship. It may not be easy to give up your passion or change
career for someone, but nights and weekends are when most people are
free to spend time together. It could be an expressway to being
single.

* You are stuck on 'e-romance'

Online romances may meet some of your attachment needs, but not in a
real way. Meet new prospects and stick to more realistic ways of
meeting people.

* You are indecisive

If you are in a relationship but do not know what you want out of it,
then you may be single for a long time. Have a mind of your own and
take the responsibility of making your own decisions in your
relationship. Be clear and certain about what you want and set out to
get it.

* You do not believe in yourself

Some people think they simply are not worthy of meeting other people
until they lose weight, amass a certain amount of money or achieve
something. The key to overcoming this problem is to believe in oneself
and love oneself the way one is.

Culled from Punch.