My Marriage Was Full Of Lies -- Uche

Fair-skinned Nollywood damsel, Uche Ogbodo, who has just returned from
the United States after the delivery of her baby girl, is no stranger
to controversies.

The current one rocking her boat is about her failed marriage to
ex-Nigerian footballer, Ato Ubby.

While some say she dumped the man because he had a brain tumour,
others accused the actress of marrying the hapless footballer only for
money.

But Uche is back and ready to tell her own side of the story about her
marriage and other issues. Here is an excerpt from her interview with
Vanguard:

What really made you leave your husband?

My marriage was full of lies. I cannot tell you in detail what those
lies were, if that's what you're trying to make me do but it was based
on lies. It's a pity it didn't work out. I didn't go into the marriage
to crash it. I wanted a family; I wanted a loving home and a loving
husband. That was why I went into it in the first place but as nature
would have it, I didn't get any of those. I still thank God my head is
intact

Did he cheat on you? What exactly did he do?

No, it's not about women. Like I always say, you cannot build a home
on sinking sand. You need to build a home on a rock. What I mean is
that a marriage built on deceit and lies is no marriage at all. If you
want a solid marriage, it must be built on honesty and
trustworthiness. If not, it's definitely going to crash. If it doesn't
crash today, it will crash tomorrow, so the lies are my reasons.

When did you discover he was lying to you?

Well, it was good while it lasted; he was a good man to me. I felt all
I saw was all I was supposed to see but later when one thing led to
another and things started unfolding. I started finding out that
everything was not what it seemed. Every relationship, you have
problems in-between, there is no relationship that just goes on
smoothly.

In the process of friendship and dating, we had issues that we
resolved but when we took it to the next level we just couldn't hold
it together. There are things you can hide as friends but as married
couple it is impossible because so many other things like families are
involved.

As his girlfriend some things that were hidden were revealed when I
became his wife. What happened between me and my husband is between me
and my husband. We caused it, both of us caused it.

For how long were you guys together?

The marriage lasted barely a month before we started having issues. We
were having issues before I found out I was pregnant.

Are you planning to raise your child as a single mother?

When I don't have a husband, I'm raising her alone. I can't throw my
child away. It's not her fault that the marriage didn't work out, it's
not her fault that I got pregnant, it's not her fault that we didn't
take our marriage seriously, so I'm going to raise her no matter what
happens.

How old is she now?

She's a month and two weeks now.