The crash of the marriage between Chris & Anita Oyakhilome has been
widely reported after Anita requested for a divorce.
According to ThisDay, who claimed to have obtained a copy of Anita's
divorce petition, the reverend is filing for the divorce on the
grounds on unresaonable behaviors on the part oh her husband. Read the
statement below.
"The wife has discussed with the husband his inappropriate
relationship with some of his female staff members. She has explained
that this has given her cause for concern. The husband has minimised
her worries and taken no step to alleviate her grievances."
"The wife submits that her marriage to the husband has irretrievably
broken down and there is no hope of reconciliation. The wife will
submit that it is the husband's unreasonable behaviours which have led
to this.
"The husband and the wife are both Pastors. The husband undertakes his
work, in the main, in South Africa and Nigeria. The wife lives in the
United Kingdom. The wife will say that they have lived separately for
16 years and over this time have drifted apart.
The wife has come to realise that the husband will only visit the UK
for annual church programmes that he holds rather than to be with this
wife. The wife feels that he has been unavailable as a father to their
children during their developing years.
"The wife feels that their marriage suffered under the pressure of
their work. They would rarely spend time together due to the husband
unavailability. Special occasions such as Christmas, Birthdays and
family occasions and anniversaries past them by and their rarely spent
any time together as a family as the husband was more devoted to his
work than he was to them.
"The wife feels that she has been used to portray and enhance the
husband's image as a family man when the reality is that there is no
existing relationship between them. She feels that she has been
present for official functions simply for his convenience. On
occasions she has been copied into his travel itinerary which has been
given to him by his staff on a need to know basis.
"The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the husband. He
claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and
her needs."
"As a result of the husband's attitude to their marriage, the wife
will say that he is virtually not recognised as a married man in the
ministry. His teachings and beliefs on marriage is that the husband is
a master and a controller and the wife will say that his concept of
biblical; submission is so extreme that it is impossible for her to
meet his expectations. She feels humiliated by the way he treats her
in the presence of his close female staff members and she feels that
she has been taken for granted which has become unbearably stressful
for her.
"The wife will say that the relationship with the husband is
non-existent to the point that his itinerary which was announced
publicly at the beginning of the year had no provision for time with
his family. His staff members who travel with him organise both his
personal and professional life without any input from her. The wife
will say that she is treated with disregard almost like akin to an
intruder.
"The wife feels that she has been mentally, physically and emotionally
deprived of the experience of a marital relationship. She feels that
the husband has persistently judged her and his communication with
her has been unduly harsh. The wife knows that he was hard to please
and has been extremely critical.
"The wife reserves the right to expand on all of these particulars if
the divorce petition is defended."
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